How can you help your kids cope with your divorce?

On Behalf of | Dec 7, 2021 | Divorce

Each year, millions of children in the U.S are faced with family disruptions that are occasioned by their parents’ divorce. Unfortunately, what some parents often overlook is the impact of divorce on their children; and this can be a very costly mistake.

The impact of divorce on children cannot be overlooked. They may go through emotional tumult during and after the divorce. It is not unusual for the child to feel sad, angry, confused and worried about what will happen next. 

Here are a few tips you can use to help your little ones cope with the divorce.

Assure them of love and protection

Pretty much every child starts life with a self-centered mindset. During the divorce process, it is not unusual for a child’s young mind to think that they might be the cause of their parents’ divorce. For this reason, it is important for the divorcing parents to make sure that their children know that the decision to divorce has nothing with them and that they (the children) are loved unconditionally. It is important for both parents to assure the children of continued love and protection despite the change in circumstances. 

Aim for a cooperative spirit with your co-parent

Divorce can be a very emotional affair. While going through your divorce, it can be tempting for one parent to express their frustrations to the kids and blame the other parent for the divorce. This is never a good idea. It is likely to result in the kids perceiving one parent as “bad” and the other as “good.” This can greatly affect the kids’ relationship with the other parent. Additionally, this could amount to parental alienation, which can greatly impact your custody case should the court learn of your behavior. 

Divorce can be tough on everyone, and especially the children. If you are in the process of dissolving your marriage, it is important that you come up with strategies to make your divorce work for your entire family.