You hate the idea of staying in an unhappy marriage a minute longer than necessary. However, you also hate the idea of a divorce – especially if it means breaking up right before the holiday season.
Is your marriage really over? Is it too late for reconciliation with your spouse? Maybe. Every relationship is unique, but the experts say that there’s some definite signs that you should probably cut your losses (no matter what the time of year).
Definite signs that your marriage is broken
All marriages have their ups and downs, but there are some “deal breakers” that should tell you that the time to call it quits is here:
- One (or both) of you is unfaithful. Happily married people don’t get into romantic relationships with others. An affair is usually a big wake-up call for both halves of a couple.
- Your relationship has turned abusive. Keep in mind that abuse doesn’t have to be physical to hurt. Verbal, emotional and financial abuse are also destructive to any relationship.
- You have nothing to say to each other. If you’re basically strangers living in the shared space, why are you there?
- Your goals or values (or both) have already parted ways. People do change, and you and your spouse may no longer hold the same ideal or share the same vision for the future. That doesn’t make for a happy marriage.
- Only one of you seems interested in making it work. If your spouse won’t go to therapy and only one of you seems to be willing to communicate, that’s a sign that they have already emotionally “checked out” of the relationship.
- You don’t trust your spouse, or your spouse doesn’t trust you (or both). Mutual trust and respect are crucial in every marriage. If those are gone, so is your relationship.
Don’t stay stuck in a marriage that no longer works. Find out more about how you can start the process of dividing your lives — for good.