Divorce is usually the result of long-standing tensions in the marriage. The divorce process typically adds to that tension. So, you might prefer not to talk to your ex once your divorce is over.
If, however, you have children together, you still need to communicate regularly. Finding ways to reduce the tension during the divorce will be crucial to ensure this is easier to facilitate.
Mediating your divorce allows you to work toward an agreeable solution with the help of an independent third-party mediator. Compare that to litigation, where you both set out to get what you want, often at the expense of the other, and you can see why mediation may help reduce tensions between you.
Mediating your divorce benefits your child
Your child might not tell you they are upset that you are arguing, but they will be. No one wants to see two people they love hurting each other. The conflict between you and your co-parent can also lead your child to worry that you will leave them. Fear of abandonment is a significant problem for children whose parents argue and fight over their divorce.
Many divorce problems arise because one or both the partners see the end of the marriage as someone’s fault. Yet, most relationships end at some point. Friends, colleagues and lovers can all drift apart. It is natural and not necessarily anyone’s fault. If you can view your marriage as coming to its natural end, it will make it easier to focus on building a new relationship as co-parents.
You can use mediation to settle most divorce issues, from property division to how you share child custody. Understanding more can help you determine if it is right for you.