If you’re divorcing and have children, one of the worries you may have is that you won’t be able to see your children as much as you’d like in the future. There is certainly a possibility that you could have issues with your custodial rights, but in most cases, the court will want to see you and the other parent involved in your children’s lives.
Still, there are cases where one spouse will try to make the other look bad or to take away nearly all of their child custody time. To prevent that, there are some things you can do.
What can you do to get custody of your children?
To start with, the first thing you’ll want to do is to talk to your attorney about your concerns. Why do you feel like you won’t have shared custody, and what would you like to see happen? What kind of custody schedule are you interested in having? This kind of information will help.
The next thing to do is to get to know the custody laws. You should understand how custody time is decided and take steps to prepare for your case in court, even if you happen to settle without a trial. For example, you may want to collect witness statements describing your parenting style, so that you can show the judge that you are involved in your children’s lives in a positive way.
After this, you should discuss appearances with your attorney. Going to court over custody, at least for a hearing, is fairly common. You should be prepared to show up on time, to be dressed respectfully and to act in a respectful manner to the judge. That hearing will make an impression, so you want to show your best self.
Finally, be willing to negotiate. If you can avoid going to court, then you’ll take the element of chance out of your custody arrangements. Talk to the other parent about your concerns, and try to work out a schedule that is fair to both of you. Doing this may help you prevent any arrangements that limit your time with your children.