While you and your spouse respect one another, you no longer connect as intimate partners. In fact, you feel more like roommates or good friends. Both of you want more out of life than that, and you both want to do what is best for the kids, no matter what.
So, while divorce may indeed be on your horizon, you want to make the transition as easy as possible on your children. Neither of you wants to pull the kids out of their schools or their neighborhood. Is there a custody solution that might work for your family?
Consider bird’s nest parenting
The concept of bird’s nest parenting is based on the way that both male and female birds fly in and out of the nest, taking care of their young. That is basically what you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse would be doing.
The children will continue to live full-time in the family home, going to bed in their same rooms and waking up to the same routines, schools and play dates with their friends. Both you and your co-parent will move in and out of the home during your custody time with the children.
What type of situations work best with bird’s nest parenting?
The co-parents must have preserved a civil and respectful relationship with one another. They should be mindful of boundaries and willing to agree to an unconventional arrangement for the sake of the children. They also must have the means to support three households between them — the family home and separate quarters for each co-parent when the children are not with them.
When this kind of custody could be problematic
If or when either co-parent gets involved in another serious relationship, the custody arrangements may need to be revisited, as it might be too awkward to bring another person in and out of the family home. But if you are willing to think outside of the box, your attorney might recommend this type of custody arrangement to the court.