Children benefit when both parents continue to take an active role in their lives. Yet, getting along with someone you have recently divorced from can be a challenge.
One thing that can help shift your mindset about the situation is recognizing how shared parenting can actually be a benefit for everyone involved. Here are a few things to consider.
Shared parenting has considerable benefits for parents
When you work together to bring up your child, it is not only your child who will benefit. Raising a child requires considerable time, money and effort. When you share these responsibilities, it makes it easier for you as a parent. Here are some reasons why:
- You get time to yourself: This allows you and your child to appreciate the time you spend together. It also allows you to catch up on sleep and enjoy some well-deserved me-time or even head out on a date.
- You bear less of the financial burden: If your child needs something last minute for school, they will ask whichever parent they are with at the time. If that is always you, you will always end up paying. You will spend less on gas if you do not have to run your child around all the time. Going out for a coffee or meal will also become cheaper with fewer mouths to feed.
- You get help in making difficult decisions: Some decisions concerning your child can be tough. It is good to hear a second opinion.
- Your child will have a different relationship with each of you. There may be specific things they are happy to discuss with you but not the other parent and vice-versa. Having two sets of ears on the ground can help you discover what you might not find out alone.
Setting the rules of your co-parenting relationship requires experienced help to discover what could work and put it in a child custody agreement.