Making the decision to divorce often comes after a lot of thought. Once it’s made, you and your soon-to-be ex will need to figure out how to tell the children about the split. For some parents, this is often more difficult than making the decision to end the marriage.
There are several things that you can do that might make it a bit easier for your children to handle the news. Typically, you should talk to them when it’s calm and not in the heat of an argument. This can help them to understand a bit better without being super stressed out because of anger or fear.
Gather everyone together
If possible, you and your ex should tell all the children about the divorce at the same time. Getting everyone together helps to ensure that everyone is receiving the same information. It’s also a good time for the kids to ask any questions they have about what’s going to happen. Try to answer these honestly but don’t make any promises that you might not be able to keep.
Act as a parenting team
Your marriage ending doesn’t mean that you can’t be a good parenting team. You and your ex both love the children, so you have to put your relationship woes aside and focus on raising the kids. Being able to present a united front can help the kids to feel more secure about the changes that are coming.
Reassure the children
Many children worry that one parent won’t be involved in their life. This can lead to stress for the child. You and your ex need to reassure the kids that you’ll both be active parts of their life.
As soon as possible, you and your ex should work out the terms of the parenting plan. This enables you to move forward with giving the children the consistency they need. Your lawyer can help you work out the terms and ensure that you’ve covered all the bases.