Separating and divorcing is hard on a family. When you have children, you may struggle even more. You want to protect them, and you also want to be sure you create a situation in which you and your ex-spouse still are able to work together for their benefit.

As co-parents, it’s important that you are able to work together. While it can be tough at times, these three tips for co-parenting may help you as you begin on this journey together.

Leave your kids out of your grief

One of the first tips is to leave your kids out of your grief. You may be mourning the loss of your relationship, but your children are not your confidants. Go to therapy, speak with adult loved ones or consult with friends when you need to talk. Confiding in your children could create tension between yourself, your ex and them.

Get back into a routine

For yourself and for your children, getting into a routine is a good idea. A good routine will help you get back into the swing of going to work, school, doing homework, going through bedtimes and more. Once you have a good schedule, talk with your ex about it. Together, you may be able to keep the schedule similar in both homes.

Be communicative

Finally, remember that you’re going to have to communicate. Be respectful, and communicate your issues or concerns directly. Never use your child as the messenger.

These three tips may help you both become better co-parents. Together, you can continue to raise your children and provide them with the support that they need.