Co-parenting and what to do if you can’t get along

On Behalf of | Sep 10, 2020 | Family Law

For the sake of your children, you hope to get along with your ex-spouse post-divorce. Unfortunately, even with the best intentions, this can be difficult. And that’s especially true if your ex is doing their best to fight you every step of the way.

Here are some of the many things you can do, with regard to co-parenting, if you’re not getting along with your ex:

  • Rely on your parenting agreement: The nice thing about a parenting agreement is that it outlines the legal rights of both parents. For example, it may provide guidance on where your child will spend the holidays. This ensures that there is no gray area.
  • Find a new way to communicate: Don’t force something that isn’t working. If you’re unable to communicate by phone or in person, consider the benefits of doing so via text messages or email. When you continue to force something that isn’t working, you’ll find it much more difficult to get on the same page and stay on the same page.
  • Keep your cool: Even if you’re in the midst of a serious argument, it would be in your best interest to keep your cool, as losing your temper will only increase the tension between the two of you. There’s nothing wrong with walking away, taking a deep breath and revisiting the situation in the future.
  • Focus on your children: Remember, you don’t have to be best friends with your ex-spouse after divorce. You simply need to work with them to provide your children with the best life possible. When the both of you focus on your children, you eliminate the potential for arguments unrelated to them.

There’s nothing simple about co-parenting, but some people find more success than others. When you’re prepared to deal with anything that comes your way, it’s much easier to do so in the appropriate manner.

Should your ex continue to push back, perhaps by violating your parenting agreement, talk to them about your concerns as you also learn more about your legal rights. This will help you formulate a plan as you move forward with co-parenting.