Nesting is a term that describes when two divorced parents keep their marital home and allow their child to live there. Each parent takes turns living in the marital home on their custody days. When they don’t have custody, they go to their own apartments or homes, allowing the other parent to have one-on-one time with their child.
There are a few benefits to nesting that you should consider. These include:
- Your child doesn’t have to split time between homes and deal with the stress of two households
- You can retain the marital home longer so that it can eventually be sold at a higher value (with the profits divided)
- You can have a cooperative, supportive co-parenting arrangement — and your own private space as a retreat
Think about this: If you use nesting techniques, your child can stay in one place. They don’t need to have duplicates of their favorite items or worry about forgetting something at the other parent’s house. You don’t have pick-up and drop-off times to worry about, either.
You can also keep the home longer. If it’s paid off already, this is even better, because you’ll allow its value to grow while your child grows up in the home they’ve always known.
Finally, when you have your own private apartment or home away from the marital home, you can have your own rules and do your own hobbies without your child there. Your space might be a good place to start dating or give you the area you need to work, while your child remains in the safe, structured environment of your main home.
These are three things to consider if you are thinking about nesting. In the right circumstances, it can be a good option. If you’re struggling with a child custody issue, it may be time to get some input from someone who has experience in these matters.