You got married young, had a child and got divorced. You then got married again in your mid-30s, as did your new spouse after divorcing their child’s other parent. As you both had children from your previous marriages, together you formed a new, blended family unit with two parents and two children.
If a second divorce arises, the situation is now much more complicated. How long were the families together? Do you feel like the other child is yours as well? Did you officially adopt them after you got re-married? Did your spouse adopt your child? Breaking up this second family group is not necessarily as simple as leaving with your child and allowing your spouse to go their own way with theirs. And, even if it is that simple, do you both just want to cut off your relationships with those children?
One thing to consider is that these types of blended families have high divorce rates. According to some studies, about 41% of first marriages will eventually terminate due to a divorce. For a second marriage like the one you’re in now, that figure jumps to 60%. But the real telling stat is that, if both you and your spouse have children from previous marriages that you brought to the new relationship, the divorce rate is a staggering 70%.
So, not only do you have some extra questions to ask when ending your marriage, but you also have far higher odds that you will file for divorce eventually. When you do, make sure you know what steps to take.