You hope that everything goes smoothly and as planned when co-parenting your children after divorce, but don’t assume this will hold true. Even if you’re both devoted to the process, you’re likely to run into trouble every now and again.
When you’re aware of common co-parenting issues, it’s easier to prevent them from sneaking up on you. Here are some of the many issues to watch out for:
- Differing parenting styles: You may find that your ex doesn’t have the same parenting style as you. While you may consider this a problem, they don’t see any issue with it. You can’t change the way your ex parents your children, but you can talk about your concerns in the hope of finding common ground.
- Your ex talks poorly about you: The last thing you want to do is put your children in the middle of your divorce and related issues. But even if you avoid this, your ex may continually talk poorly about you in front of your children. They do this in an attempt to win them over, while turning them against you. It’s a problem that you don’t want to let linger.
- Parenting plan violations: You create a parenting plan during the divorce process with the idea that both of you will follow all the terms and conditions in the future. If your ex doesn’t abide by the parenting plan, it can cause bad blood between the two of you. For instance, if they neglect to return your children at the right time after a scheduled visit, it’s likely to concern you.
These are just a few of the many issues that could come to light when co-parenting after divorce. On the plus side, attention to detail and a little bit of flexibility can go a long way in making things work.
If you’re facing one co-parenting issue after the next, with no end in sight, talk to your ex about your concerns. This may be all it takes to stabilize your situation.
Should that approach get you nowhere, review your parenting plan and decide if you should request a modification from the court that originally issued it.