Some parents in Texas who are going through a divorce might want to consider mediation to work out an agreement regarding custody and visitation as well as other parenting issues. Most of the time, divorcing parents want what is in the best interests of the child. Conflict arises when they are unable to agree on what that constitutes.

This conflict can range from issues as seemingly trivial as a child’s bedtime to those as important as what college the child will attend. In the latter case, one parent may believe that giving the child as much choice as possible without worrying about money is in the best interests of the child. The other parent may feel that it is ensuring that the child takes some responsibility for paying for a reasonably-priced education. Both may firmly believe that they are making the best choice for the child.

Mediation aims to resolve these types of differences and find a solution that suits both parents. In general, it is not disagreement between parents that can be harmful to children but how parents approach that disagreement and attempt to resolve the conflict. Mediation might lead to a healthier resolution than going to court.

If parents go to court, they enter into an adversarial approach where there is a “winner” and a loser”. The cooperative atmosphere of divorce mediation is very different. As part of the divorce process, mediation might also help people reach a resolution regarding property division. Another advantage of mediation is that it can allow couples more control over the final outcome of any divorce agreement. One or both people may be unhappy with a judge’s decision, but there might not be recourse. Finally, mediation can be less costly and stressful than a court battle.