Birdnesting and other ways to give kids stability after divorce

On Behalf of | Nov 27, 2018 | Child Custody

“Birdnesting” is the name of an approach to child custody for divorced parents that may help children in Texas better adjust to this change. Experts advise that this arrangement is best if it has a limited duration. During birdnesting, parents alternate living in the family home while their children live there full time. Parents usually also take turns living in a small apartment nearby.

One disadvantage to the arrangement is that if it goes on for too long, children may begin to believe that their parents are going to get back together. Another drawback is that even if the divorcing individuals get along very well, having to share a living space may create conflict.

Birdnesting is not the only way people can create stability for their children while going through or after a divorce. Even if they do not share the family home, parents can still try to make sure that their kids’ routines are disrupted as little as possible. Parents can work together to make sure that they have the same rules and consequences in each of their households and that children do not have to change schools. Sometimes kids lose contact with extended family on one side after a divorce. Parents can help them maintain these ties. If the adults are experiencing conflict with one another, they should keep it to themselves in front of their children.

It may be helpful if parents can go into child custody negotiations with the best interests of their children in mind. As difficult as these negotiations can be, divorcing individuals often prefer them over going to court, which can be expensive and stressful. In addition to the regular schedule, people should remember to include plans for vacations and holidays. Parents may also want to include other things in their parenting agreement, such as a plan for communicating about drop-offs and pickups or resolving conflict.