In the previous post, we discussed why men get the short end of the stick when it comes to alimony. Reasons range from the stigma society has established about how emasculated men feel asking their wives for financial support, to the simple fact that courts are still a little biased towards granting men spousal support. Even though it has been traditinally more difficult for men to get alimony, the number is slowly rising as more husbands stay at home so that their wives can focus on their careers.
In this post, we’ll look at some of the reasons more men are beginning to win their fight for spousal support.
Gender roles balancing out
Attorney Penelope Hefner, of Charlotte, North Carolina, says, “More fathers stay at home, and more women earn more than their husbands. This shift in the economic balance naturally leads to a shift in the proportion of husbands seeking support.” As this shift happens, it should be no surprise that husbands are getting alimony rather than vice versa. Still, women are finding it hard to grasp.
Ex-wife, Holly Chiancola of Gloucester, MA, was livid with the role reversal when her husband received a $96,000 annual alimony payment, their second house, and an investment property that Chiancola bought in Costa Rica.
As men are becoming more aggressive in their pursuit of spousal support, the shame of asking for alimony is disappearing.
Numbers trump pride
It’s true that some men view requesting spousal support as a form of weakness, but when they actually see the numbers involved and what it would take for them to live on their own and not in their parents’ basement, they are a little less reluctant. Men who are getting divorced need to know that even if they aren’t the breadwinners in the family, they still play a valuable role in contributing to the household and deserve compensation. This may mean setting aside their pride to ask for spousal support that will help to provide for themselves independently.
No matter the gender, alimony is a great way for an individual to get back on their feet and segue back into the single life. If you are a man and you’re wondering if asking for alimony is the right choice for you, contact an attorney who will review your unique case and help you figure out what the next step should be.