Handling co-parenting problems: Working through the past

On Behalf of | Feb 13, 2018 | Blog

There’s no question that working with your ex-husband or ex-wife to raise your child could be difficult. You’re no longer married for good reason, but you know the importance of raising your child together.

You want to stay on the same page when it comes to your child, but your ex is making it difficult. You’re facing trouble with your ex crossing boundaries you’re not comfortable with and allowing your child to do things you don’t approve of.

What can you do to solve co-parenting issues?

The first thing you can do is to start focusing on what the real problem is. Do you have a problem with the actions your ex takes because of problems you had in your marriage, a grudge or other psychological factors? If so, you need to take a step back and see if the things your ex is doing are really a negative influence on your child.

If they are as bad as you think, then have a word with your ex-partner. Discuss why the actions he or she is participating in are negative or influencing your relationship badly. If he or she won’t have a conversation with you over your concerns, consider reaching out to a mediator. A mediator can help you focus on the main issue and get you back to a balanced position in your co-parenting relationship.

All co-parents face issues like hearing negative things about themselves from their children due to the other parent’s influence or struggling with schedule changes at the last minute. It may take some time to work together to resolve any bad blood between you and your ex, but if you want to make your co-parenting relationship work, you need to set aside time to bury any negative feelings and focus on the health and wellness of your child.